A Spiritual Director, or Spiritual Guide, or Soul Friend, is someone who accompanies you on your spiritual journey, helping you to explore your faith, to see where and how God is at work in your life, and to respond to him in your own way. He or she may be a lay person or ordained, and possibly a member of a religious community.
Your Spiritual Director won’t ‘direct’ you, but will help you to find the right direction for your life; as well as listening to you and to the Holy Spirit, he or she may suggest particular approaches to prayer, and other spiritual practices, for you to try. Once you have settled into the relationship, you will perhaps meet together for up to an hour every couple of months, probably in the Spiritual Director’s home. All that is shared will remain confidential. Most won’t make a charge, but will generally accept donations.
People often find such a Soul Friend for themselves, perhaps through someone else. For those who would like help in finding a Spiritual Director, the Diocese maintains an ecumenical Register of those who have been trained for this ministry.
To join and remain on the Register, they must:
- have completed a recognised training course in spiritual direction
- participate in ongoing training & development for this ministry
- belong to a worshipping community within the Christian tradition
- have their own spiritual director
- engage in supervision for this ministry
- hold a current Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS) certificate
- agree to abide by the Retreat Association Guidelines
You may want to contact our Diocesan Spirituality Adviser, the Revd Sally Dakin at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are:
…looking for a Spiritual Director?
If you are looking for a Spiritual Director or have questions about what’s involved, please contact Sally Dakin.
If you wish, she will send you information about the process of matching enquirers to Spiritual Directors in the Diocese, and an Enquiry Form for you to fill in.
You then send the completed form to the Network Administrator (herself an experienced Spiritual Director), who can help you to find the right person.
…are already a qualified Spiritual Director?
If you would like to discuss joining our Register of Spiritual Directors, or are simply interested in joining the Spiritual Direction Network for those who are offering this ministry formally or informally, please email Sally Dakin.
Members of the Spirituality Support Group work with Sally in organising termly Network Days for Spiritual Directors, and in arranging Supervision Groups for those on the Register.
You can also contact the Spiritual Director Network Administrator, Sarah Salisbury, directly by emailing.
Training as a Spiritual Director
Would you like to train as a Spiritual Director? The Retreat Association maintains an up-to-date list of courses.
Currently the courses most accessible from Winchester include Sarum College, Salisbury; Portsmouth; Douai Abbey, near Reading; the Catholic Bible School, near Chichester; and the London Spirituality Centre.